Most of us need therapy. We all did something very difficult without any guidance about how to do it well, and now we blame ourselves for not doing it better. it wasn't our fault, all we did was try to grow up. But it's hard going from the center of the universe as an infant to being a kid in a family who have better things to do than focus on us. 

But we inherited a lot. Go back one post to 95 THESES 95 and see how many there were.

And if you aren't sure, here's the easy way to know if you need a therapist: you are addicted to something. Addictions are distractions from thinking about how bad we are inside (you're not really bad, you just think you are because nobody told you different, nobody you believed). Or you are depressed. Not really all that many things you need to look for. There are other symptoms, but those two are the tell-tales that something didn't go right.

Therapy is a great way to deal with our past, remembered or forgotten. But finding a therapist is difficult.

Here's my formula, after having tried and relied on many who were either incapable or uninterested in my welfare: if you haven't experienced significant healing after your second visit, cancel your third. They might be competent, but they were not good at making you feel sufficiently at ease to relax your defenses, so just move on.

Don't pay attention to the degree or letters behind the name. What you really want to know is if they have dealt with their own demons, and if they innately love talking with people who don't even realize their own problems, and if they'll understand you. Only a visit or two can reveal that. And then you know.

Good luck out there. I've said it before and I'll say it again, Keith Louw in North Orem is great. Helped me a ton. 

A good therapist won't dwell on your past, because you've been thinking about it for decades and where did that get you? They know the past is where the problem began, but you sustaining those feelings about the past is the problem. Why are you still feeling those things? A good therapist will go after that question, and help you change those feelings.